a lovely side effect of currently seeing someone:
now whenever I encounter a diff person I prev half-heartedly considered "maaaybe we should date??", I feel a warm wash of juxtaposed relief:
"aah thank god I don't currently have to be viewing the world in that way right now" ☺️
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what feels relieving about it? (actually confused, maybe “half-heartedly” is the key)
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hm, like an extra cost on top of every interaction, the wondering like "should I be considering dating this person? should I be taking extra action?"
mentally squinting at the person, finding their Facebook, trying to learn more about them
also questioning my own preferences
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I *don't* mean people with whom I felt an organically compelling, obvious, completely natural draw
I mean light intrigue, mild interest
then followed by checking around the edges, "is there more here? could there be?" "what if I gave it a little extra time, a deeper look?"
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