When did you first think of yourself as an adult?
What had to happen to make you think and feel this way?
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This year it was really obvious that I'm on the downslope, accelerating into mature adulthood rather than climbing up the hump.
The most fundamental change was cultivating a way of relating characterized by care, responsiveness, taking responsibility for what is.
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"cultivating a way of relating characterized by care, responsiveness, taking responsibility for what is." oh yeah! very into this definition of adult!
i think this has happened to me in different areas of my life for a long time... some areas when i was young in years
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it's correlated with less and less dissociation from areas of my life, the tipping point was in the last two years where i reclaimed my voice, accepted who i am from an ecological standpoint, and commited myself to be responsible for big domains in my family and for my own growth
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inner ecology* "here are my parts, here are how they work or don't work together"
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very cool insight into your own growth - as dissociation decreases, opportunity for responsibility and growth increases
perhaps *taking* (accepting) those opportunities leads to becoming more and more “adult”
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what’s the relationship between being an adult and becoming wise?
both seem like the depend on taking opportunities for growth and learning from experiences
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becoming wise is about your capabilities but "being an adult" is fundamentally social; part of it involves being recognized by society at large as an adult, that's what coming of age rituals are for
this feels right - adult as a social construct
wisdom wrt capabilities, and perhaps understanding of context and ability to decide what to do/when
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