can you expand a bit more on what “i’m the girl” means to you? like are you more afraid of losing respect (or whatever it is) in the eyes of the woman you’re dating, other men, other women, something else?
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i'm afraid she's gonna go fuck a guy who's not "the girl" behind my back and laugh about it
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this is maybe the deepest thing that PUA/TRP memed into my consciousness
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yeah okay so that might happen and you might not be able to do anything about it. and then... that would presumably mean something about you right?
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yeah i'd have failed
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you know that thing Cain says to God: "my punishment is too great for me to bear"
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and not only would i have failed but everyone would agree that i'd failed
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as a man
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to elaborate: i think people would tell me forever that it was because i either wasn't attractive enough as a man, or that i picked wrong because of my desperation/desire for a relationship - and i'd have to live with that, forever
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it might even be true! which only makes it more unbearable
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is it bad that now i kinda want this to happen to you so you get to find out what it actually feels like 😅
maybe i phrased it poorly - i mean i think there’d be something refreshing about getting to actually experience it and survive it and overcome it, instead of it staying this unknowable infinitely bad hypothetical bogeyman
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