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but like i guess it's true in some sense, it's just fundamentally askew maybe? and so the more avoidant girls are just off-limits for me?
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can you expand a bit more on what “i’m the girl” means to you? like are you more afraid of losing respect (or whatever it is) in the eyes of the woman you’re dating, other men, other women, something else?
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i'm afraid she's gonna go fuck a guy who's not "the girl" behind my back and laugh about it
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this is maybe the deepest thing that PUA/TRP memed into my consciousness
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yeah okay so that might happen and you might not be able to do anything about it. and then... that would presumably mean something about you right?
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yeah i'd have failed
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you know that thing Cain says to God: "my punishment is too great for me to bear"
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and not only would i have failed but everyone would agree that i'd failed
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as a man
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and then... they would be right forever or something? is it possible to recover from that or are you just somehow permanently doomed?
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i mean i could recover from that - that presents me the same problem i'm facing now prophylactically
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it's a hard road tho! it seems impossible to grow sufficiently that i could "just know" (accurately!) that my aprtner wouldn't do that
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