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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)
@QiaochuYuan
this confuses me a lot and it's not how i use the word at all. it feels a little bad to say this but in many ways i currently feel like i have zero "friends," in the sense of "people i hang out with regularly" which is what "friend" meant to me in high school and college
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mechanical monk
@mechanical_monk
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americans throw the word "friend" around like a bean bag they'll spend one evening at some meetup and be like "i made 3 new friends"
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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)
@QiaochuYuan
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@QiaochuYuan
pretty sure i've complained about this on twitter before and i'll probably keep complaining about it but it's fucked up that the quality of my social life peaked in college and i've never gone back to that peak for longer than 2 weeks at a time
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mechanical monk
@mechanical_monk
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for me someone i hang out with regularly would be like a "drinking buddy" i've hung out regularly with many people who were not my friends in my life a friend is more; it's someone with whom we're invested in each other's lives and trajectories and successes
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Sunny
@SunnyDisposish1
In my subculture at least, we are invested in our drinking buddies lives and trajectories and successes! But there are too many of them to see them all really consistently or to really be there for them all the time. Someone will probably be there for us too but we don't know who
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Anastasia Snow
@ana_snow369
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Making friends with people as an adult is hard for me because of the anxiety I have. I’ve had some trauma since high school which has lead to me trust people less. I’m trying to get over that now cause I’m really a social person.
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skelton jon
@whyevernotso
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Same, but making progress on fixing this Finding that adult friendmaking is actually as easy as childhood friendmaking, but requires deliberately doing things where I meet people, instead of just being forced daily into a soup of peers Anyway I dare you to hang out with me
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