2day I discovered a hatred of <person>: “fuck you for being less emotionally safe than I thought you were!! you let me down!!”
hatred = the shadow, right?
“oh huh...I guess I’m not up to my own hopes for emotional safety, either”
“aiight. hi shadow self. I commit to u.”
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sometimes hatred really is about betrayal tho. not that i don’t think the shadow exploration is valuable but the shadow stuff is especially for people you hate who haven’t done anything to you. sometimes people have done stuff to you!
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Totally. I distinguish b/w anger and hatred. Yes clearly people do stuff to us, and let us down.
Anger = "my boundaries have been violated!!!" stay away, protection, recedes when safe.
Hatred = transfixation, an anger-loop. "Stay away but ughh I love reliving this"
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oh very interesting. i could def see that. hmm. hmmmmm
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aw yay! lmk if you have other hesitations. Karla McLaren's take feels related to me, too
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I'm loving Karla McLaren's take on this, as usual. Seems like "removing your dependency on the person who harmed you" is 100% a prerequisite for forgiving them.
karlamclaren.com/the-magical-re
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wow half of my account is just reposting her.
from now on, every Karla McLaren repost will be +1 unit of ...something?... towards me seeking her out as a teacher
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"When that real movement has been made, real forgiveness raises you up off the ground, wipes off the spit, pulls the twigs out of your hair, and testifies,
'You can’t hurt me anymore! It’s over and I’m free! You have no power in my life!'"
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