2day I discovered a hatred of <person>: “fuck you for being less emotionally safe than I thought you were!! you let me down!!”
hatred = the shadow, right?
“oh huh...I guess I’m not up to my own hopes for emotional safety, either”
“aiight. hi shadow self. I commit to u.”
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sometimes hatred really is about betrayal tho. not that i don’t think the shadow exploration is valuable but the shadow stuff is especially for people you hate who haven’t done anything to you. sometimes people have done stuff to you!
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Totally. I distinguish b/w anger and hatred. Yes clearly people do stuff to us, and let us down.
Anger = "my boundaries have been violated!!!" stay away, protection, recedes when safe.
Hatred = transfixation, an anger-loop. "Stay away but ughh I love reliving this"
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Hatred is, I think, a cross between anger (real harm, real boundary violation, do not blindly forgive) and desire.
I'm not gonna return to the person who let me down. & also, recognizing the shadow frees me from wanting to.
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