the backlash against sex positivity reminds me a lot of a thing i ran into teaching at a high school summer program, which is that every time we tried to say "X is good, maybe" the students heard "an oversimplified, twisted version of X is mandatory"
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it got bad enough that we started running a class called "Why Everything We Teach You Is Wrong"
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I'm a week late to this but I just wanna draw attention to the way that media narrative cycles work. see how they (1) glorify a simplistic misrepresentation of some ideal, which (2) some people then obsess over unhealthily to their detriment, then (3) glorify the inverse twitter.com/thewalrus/stat…
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for me as a millennial i feel like i saw the origins of sex positivity clearly enough that i understood what it was trying to accomplish and why - countering sex negativity memes from christianity and so forth. it synergized in a nice way with supporting gay marriage too
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when you try to apply that counter to a generation that isn't growing up with much sex negativity memes in the first place it's really easy to push too far in the other direction, and when "sex positivity" becomes "you must enjoy having casual sex or you're not cool"... 😬
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hmm the marie kondo parallel runs deep. her catchphrase is literally "spark joy" and somehow people twisted it into this minimalist obligation. and similarly i think sex positivity was sposed to be about the joy of sex but people managed to twist it into an obligation anyway
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speaking for myself when i was walking around repressed and dissociated all the time it was largely impossible for me to tell which things sparked joy, and it was also largely impossible for me to really enjoy or arguably even consent to sex
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