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the first time i read this i seem to have completely removed it from my brain afterwards because i didn't have any part of my world model that it could fit into and now i'm like "oh lol yeah that thing sure" twitter.com/NLRG_/status/1

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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)

@QiaochuYuan

Jul 26, 2021

the therapy example in particular - i've seen 3 different examples now of people who pioneered a therapy technique using that technique on other people live and they do something special that people who didn't pioneer the therapy don't do. sort of a kind of hypnotism

QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)

@QiaochuYuan

it's hard to put into words but... something like, they are very calm and very confident that the technique is good and will work, and the client *picks up on that calm and confidence* and it helps them relax into the technique itself more successfully

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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)

@QiaochuYuan

Jul 26, 2021

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in my own coaching work i have also noticed that some of my most dramatic results with clients occurred during times i was very calm and very confident that the technique is good and will work (for some value of "work"). one needs to have faith, i suppose

QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)

@QiaochuYuan

Jul 26, 2021

obviously this is abusable. at the extreme end you get highly charismatic gurus who are so confident that their thing is good and will work that they completely wrap you around their finger. one also needs to uh not be an asshole about it

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No wait we actually have this exactly in my recovery group. The ending slogan is "it works if you work it so work it ur worth it" it works bc everyone saying it works beleives this, and all the newbies see that everyone believes this and so it works for them too

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but then irl nuance and complexity and uncertainty and how do you just *believe* at this level it's a challenge