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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)
@QiaochuYuan
this is the kind of thing that makes this whole topic hard to think about and relate to, for me. like i think i a little bit get it. it is obscene. not just a little obscene. really obscene. i could see someone reading this thread and fucking hating my guts
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@aburisotto
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Replying to @aburisotto and @QiaochuYuan
what I’m saying is: if someone gave me $100,000 right now (age 31), it would change my life, and I am not “poor” by any reasonable definition. it’s a little obscene seeing someone treat that amount as having primarily emotional significance.
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pavedwalden
@pavedwalden
When I read the thread I felt a mix of empathy for the headspace you’re in (I *get* that) and… whatever the opposite of sympathy is. But that’s probably an extension of the way I beat myself up for not being able to make the best of all *my* advantages.
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pavedwalden
@pavedwalden
I appreciate your candor but I also felt a little afraid for you. Like… maybe you should lock your account for a while so you don’t end up Twitter’s “main character” tomorrow?
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pavedwalden
@pavedwalden
I wore nametags for my first decade in the workforce and although I’m now far enough into a tech career that I don’t clip coupons I’ve still never made 100k in a year. I’m incredulous about the material specifics of your situation. But I know that doesn’t matter psychologically.
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pavedwalden
@pavedwalden
Psychologically your situation sounds very familiar to me and I don’t have much advice for you. If I knew how to fix it, I’d be happy myself by now. But I do know that feeling bad is pointless. People are going to try to make you feel bad about this and it’s not helpful.
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pavedwalden
@pavedwalden
Feeling bad doesn’t fix anything and it doesn’t help you get less tangled up. So let the shame and guilt go. Every time it arises just let it pass, don’t self-flagellate (that accomplishes nothing). Don’t feel bad because other people want you too. Just keep doing better.
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