wow after years of reading bout it, I *finally* experienced “memory is stored in the body”!
helping my partner move a couch —> jammed my head between couch & van —> didn’t even hurt, but I SOBBED uncontrollably for 40min.
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I linked this to past, uh, ‘playground trauma’ and also how young me *never* experienced crying as a possibly-connective action.
I was always just sent to my room; parents said they’d talk to me once I was ‘presentable’
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my partner was lovely about it though. totally this. I now aspire to spread this energy around, myself, too 💕
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My answers to the first are also often just “a HUG and to CRY safe and warm in the arms of someone who loves me”
and my answers to the second usually skip that part.
and my answers to the second usually skip that part.Show this thread
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A really shit aspect of being neglected when I cried is that I never learned how to be there for sobbing others either...I mostly freeze or try-to-fix.
but having experienced another option - I’m getting it. 🙏
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btw - your feed played a *huge* part in getting me comfortable with solo crying (like: journaling-till-I-find-my-tears). Many gratitudes for that! 💕
I guess my next frontier is: relational crying. Let’s gooo
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