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you don't get to tell me to stop caring about whether i creep women out. it fucking *matters* to me. i *don't wanna fucking do it*. i am *not alone*. i have had a *lot* of private conversations with other men about this. men are *torn up* about it and they *can't talk about it*
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hmmm.... I guess I didn't read VI's tweet as implying it's bad to *care* about not creeping people out... but more about how that worry manifests in some ppl as behavior that is a bad vibe/failure to vibe it's a genuinely very hard issue in that it's self-defeating in some ways
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by generally letting go, by taking a couple deep breaths, by focusing their minds and hands on smth else, maybe after that they could ask themselves what's the distinction between healthy expressions of emotionality and sensitivity and counterproductive ones
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