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you don't get to tell me to stop caring about whether i creep women out. it fucking *matters* to me. i *don't wanna fucking do it*. i am *not alone*. i have had a *lot* of private conversations with other men about this. men are *torn up* about it and they *can't talk about it*
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I really appreciate you doing this while still being clear about it mattering that the women you interact with aren't made worse off / hurt. Some of the people who say that there's more affordance than you might think are right, but it sucks to see people dismiss it entirely.
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I know you're speaking about what matters to *you* and it *matters* that that matters to you, but I'm also adding that it makes me feel cared about and safe for it to matter to you. (without claiming that it matters to you the ideal or adaptive amount).
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