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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)
@QiaochuYuan
you don't get to tell me to stop caring about whether i creep women out. it fucking *matters* to me. i *don't wanna fucking do it*. i am *not alone*. i have had a *lot* of private conversations with other men about this. men are *torn up* about it and they *can't talk about it*
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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)
@QiaochuYuan
insanely frustrating that we live in a world that 100% validates the fear of being hurt but barely acknowledges that fear of hurting other people exists or could be so intense as to be crippling
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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)
@QiaochuYuan
thinking about ways i've hurt women in the past has made me *want to die*
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Replying to @QiaochuYuan @the_aiju and 3 others
like - there was this thread the other day from a woman talking about how her experiences having sex with men were so bad she turned her dissociation into a sexual orientation and reading stuff like that legitimately makes me want to die
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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)
@QiaochuYuan
and yeah, i can recognize the parts of this that are not about hurting other people and are about my self-image, etc. i've done some work on this. but i'm not gonna stand for people trivializing this fear
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Lurking Towards Utopia
@djqualed
"But entirely unmentioned is the reason Aaronson made these comments in the first place. Aaronson, see, was replying to a blog commenter who was talking about how the presence of “shy and nerdy” men did not make her feel safe given that she’d been sexually assaulted by such men,
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