it’s fucked up that ~99% of the stories i read about men hitting on women are stories of male celebrities getting metoo’d. idk where i’m supposed to be getting role models and positive examples from. any women wanna tell us about a time a man hit on them and they liked it?
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I wanna chalk their success up to charm but honestly rules 1 and 2 are the entire game for getting "ruled in" as a sexual prospect
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these rules?
okay but what does this meeean tho this feels tautologously true? most of my life i was convinced that “attractive” was like 99% physical appearance and now i’m convinced that at least for men it isn’t but this doesn’t say anything about what it *is*
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be confident, fit, have a good social circle, work on things you’re passionate about, be talented, have lots of money, etc
ianaw but it seems like male attractiveness to women is much more variable and situation dependent than the reverse
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basically women are attracted to agency and competence. Be a high-status guy! Impressing people is the whole trick. It's tough and complex operationally but strategically simple
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idk how to square this with “non-threatening” 😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫
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🔒RT (this will self destruct)
"women want men who could kill them, but won't"
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damn this is on-point
correct me if I'm wrong but "nonthreatening" really falls more under "not socially retarded than anything else"
I've almost never been physically afraid b/c hit-on attempt, unless catcalling counts. but feeling mad awkward is not uncommon
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this would make a lot more sense to me. tbh i think the way i interpret “non-threatening” points in the wrong direction. i mostly attempt to be non-threatening by making myself seem small and harmless. it doesn’t seem very sexy
for the record sheerly from knowing you online I know you'll find your lady :) it is beyond tough out there but you're a gem and she'll figure it out when she sees you show it to her. Which you will because you're great!
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the longterm forever-alone dudes — the ones who are vocal about it, anyway — are marked by unwillingness to modify their behavior in order to obtain different results, IMO because they fear change (understandable!)
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