another sex question 4 u: when you feel sexually attracted to someone, is that feeling something you’re primarily experiencing in your genitals? chest? face? somewhere else? all over? doesn’t have a location? something else?
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Hmm. I think it's primarily a sensory thing? A sort of fascination with experiencing them (looking at them, listening to them, once things are going well enough that this is an option, touching and smelling them), coupled with a tendency to smile as I do.
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that refers to an experience i think i’ve had but idk if it was a particularly sexual one? not sure tho
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Hmm. I think it naturally leads into sexual interest for me, but that tends to build slowly over the course of actual interactions. I don't tend to have much in the way of spontaneous sexual interest from the word go.
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I guess the direction I'm drawn in by this experience is one of increasingly sexual interaction? Like I want to look, then I want to touch, then I want the touching to become increasingly sexual, etc. It's a slow build but that's definitely the direction it builds in.
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I guess I should also note that I'm at least nodding in the direction of asexual spectrum (though getting increasingly less so over time) so I'd expect this to be a much slower build process for me than for most. Sex seems to involve more urgency for other people than for me.
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yeah, it's interesting how ppl build alternative systems. I didn't get "asexual but kinky" a while ago but nowadays I understand how that works -- its a very different path from physical horny, but gradually gains interest in someone anyhow until you can actually be intimate
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