(Sorry if Iām saying an obvious (or me-specific) thing but) I relate to this thing a lot, and nothing written has helped nearly as much as finding individual people who were actually down to listen to me to completion.
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that makes sense! i am usually too uncomfortable asking a specific person to listen to me to do that š
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Well Iām happy to try if you want!
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Prediction: even (/especially?) with concrete offers, it feels sort of terrifying and like there has to be some (unacceptably bad?) catch?
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you got me š
itās true that several people have made offers and i have taken almost none of them up on it
actually maybe literally none
i feel like i need specific things from a listener and itās hard for me to ask for those things. only a few people provide them spontaneously
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Well naturally Iām interested in what those things are if youāre up for sharing!
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not sure how to describe it. like a specific blend of being emotionally impacted (like me: āhereās this bad thing that happened to meā them: āoof šā), emotionally validating, and holding space?
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mom energy
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you're literally describing mom energy
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it tru š
would you like to talk about your early childhood attachment/attunement and the lack thereof
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not that i'm speaking from experience, no, i'd never,
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