i complained about a thing so much i got tired of my own complaints which i think is my new favorite self-improvement strategy
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i think i was undervaluing boredom as a force for change. run the existing strategy into the ground enough that you get bored of it and after the boredom space opens up for something else. repeatedly experiencing the strategy helps me notice how dead vs. alive it feels
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one of the funnier symptoms of anxious attachment from the attachment course is “talks too much and goes off on tangents a lot” and i’ve been thinking about that
i think this is an attempt to process past stuff that doesn’t really get a chance to complete most of the time
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it doesn’t complete bc mostly conditions are not right to say the things that most want / need to be said, and also bc for social reasons other people might shut you up or you might shut yourself up before you get enough time to say all the things. need wayfinding + time
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anyway concrete proposal is to try journaling a shitton but if, like me, you find writing privately unmotivating, next proposal is to rant a lot on a locked alt. the higher your follower count gets on main the more stabilizing having a small locked alt becomes imo
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got curious enough about the extent to which other people feel like they have a lot of things to say to make a poll
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poll: do you more feel like you have way more things to say than contexts where it makes sense to say them, or more like you struggle to come up with things to say in the contexts available to you?
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(Sorry if I’m saying an obvious (or me-specific) thing but) I relate to this thing a lot, and nothing written has helped nearly as much as finding individual people who were actually down to listen to me to completion.
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that makes sense! i am usually too uncomfortable asking a specific person to listen to me to do that 😅
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honestly this approach for me feels like a recipe to alienate all my friends :\
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second even smaller alt lol (actually srs)
this is if you can’t swing journaling, if you can that would probably be cleaner
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i type really fast so i def enjoy getting to yell really fast digitally, for sure
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