hello i have some intrusive questions about your sex life please: have you ever experienced sexual compatibility with another human being? what was it like? what was it made of - like what was different about it vs. non-compatibility? how do you go about looking for it?
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this is my favorite answer so far on style points
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the uncarnate child is willing his future parents together like Amor with his bow. it does feel like this, and it can be supported with the evidence of retrocausality & the evidence of how reincarnation works.
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I've enjoyed a ton of sex, but there's only one partner I think of as 'really sexually compatible', and it was basically that he really liked doing the things that i also really liked. We didn't have to 'adjust for' each other very much, which is common in other sex partners.
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I don't know how to 'look for it' beyond asking invasive questions about sexual preferences early on. Kink communities tend to be more open in general? I did do a 'have sex with me' survey to try to find a compatible person and did have fun sex with someone from the survey.
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kinda, it comes and goes somehow. during good times it's usually someone who has accumulated enough life stuff to play with the same things without falling into them entirely. this isn't just kink, general behavior fits that too in a small way
others just feel awkward
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like either we don't have a way to engage or we default to some common things and act them out but neither of us really hits on what we find hot?
honestly, I just messed around & realized "start slow to not scare them" was impossible cuz it would make me lose interest lol
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Maybe stop trying to reason everything out. Have sex, feels good? Now you know
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That first sentence is just as much for me as it is for the reader btw
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In my experience, this stems from a kind of interpersonal connection where you feel like you can let your guard down around the other person
also: very strong mutual physical attraction
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I love intrusive questions. I feel like this one is sooooo hard to answer though. attraction itself is this amorphous fog of a question. sexual compatibility seems like it's layers and layers under it. I could say "it's a mental thing" but that doesn't really explain anything.
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