i was actually fucked up for a long time by the message that this was only a problem women had because it prevented me, for years, from even considering the possibility that this was a problem i was having (it was, 100%, very badly)
there are four genders and they are secure attachment, anxious / preoccupied attachment, dismissive / avoidant attachment, and disorganized / fearful attachment
hm that’s interesting
i think it would be safe to say it could be Both
it can be an anxious attachment issue as well as an affliction women who have sex with men suffer from