You feel like a walking bag of contradictions because everyone else presents you a consistent mask
They are just as contradictory and unique as you are. They just dont show it at first
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i think this kind of thing really depends a lot on attachment style actually. one of the hallmarks of secure attachment is a coherency of self that's genuinely less of a thing for the other styles esp. disorganized
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🙂🙃😂😂😂❤❤
Still going through that textbook you suggested on attachment disturbances in adults
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me too! it's wild
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anxious attachers learn early on to present a "false self" b/c that's what they need to do to be cared for adequately - there's genuinely a huge difference between people who needed to do this growing up and people who didn't (although ofc it's a spectrum)
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disorganized attachment can cause dissociative identity disorder (or, at milder levels, being the sort of person to whom internal family systems applies strongly) - fragmentation of self is a big thing with it
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I dunno. I think I have a fairly secure attachment style and that's exactly why I feel comfortable in many diverging types of expression. Though very likely the anxiety/anxious style came first, and created the diverging traits before the secureness made me able to enjoy it! 😊
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