TAKING RISKS AND YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES TO OTHERS:
I get very uncomfortable with the questions ‘are you ok?’ and ‘how have you been?’. I feel pressure to be ok and to have had ‘life go well recently’ that doesn’t make sense when I think about what I want in my life personally.
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i like to make a distinction between “ok” and “meta-ok” where “not ok but meta-ok” is like “shit is wild and i trust the process i’m using to get through it” and “not meta-ok” is like “i am lost, i have no process, i don’t trust that things will be ok eventually, i need help”
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Yeah. I am very rarely not meta-ok, but I’m not sure that that distinction makes sense to the people asking me the question.
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seems tricky :/ re: the rest of your thread, i think at some point you kinda have to decide that it’s not your responsibility to manage how other people feel about your okayness, or something like that? like that’s kinda fundamentally their problem, not yours
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Yeah—I think what this thread has made me realise is that in order to be who I want to be, I have to be able to stomach watching their discomfort at my pain.
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