two questions, tryna see something:
1) when your parents set rules growing up, did they feel justified more like "because we said so" or more like "these are the universally correct rules you need to follow or else"? or sth else?
2) what race are your parents?
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hmm i think this was the wrong question, i should've asked about *class*, not race
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1. mix of both with some added "these are the rules i came up with just now because i'm overwhelmed at having to be a parent and i think they will help"
2. white ppl
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1) "These are universal rules that help you to avoid harm to yourself and others."
2) Mostly white (mom is 1/4 Chinese)
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felt like "there are wide-ranging general rules, and these specific rules will help you interface well with them", white
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1) I don't think I've had much of either. Some rules like "not more than X mins of screen time" and "do not hit other kids" but most 'rules' were usually reasonable and explained.
2) white
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e.g. "don't hit other kids (most of the time) because you also don't like being hit, we don't like having to talk to other parents about such things, and you gain not much from hitting them"
or "only 30mins of screen time because we want you to also do other things"
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