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Lessons I'm learning by building, brick-by-brick, late in life, discernment capacity & selfhood: a) Realize there ARE bad outcomes. Early twenties, naive Zoe did not believe this. Everything was going to be bright & good & shiny, especially things visionary people said.
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Bruised-ass late twenties Zoe knows goddamn well there are bad outcomes, but is only slowly putting together that SHE CAN CONTROL THIS to some extent via her decisions early on in a situation that could later spiral out of control. It's not just the chaos of the universe.
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b) Sometimes the best possible outcome occurs by saying NO, rather than by saying YES. SAYING YES TO LIFE was something of an aliveness-optimizing ideology for me, a mixture of fear of suburban entrapment, integration of required capacities for the craft of acting....
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Definitely feels extremely high risk to me, personally, even when it is in fact not and it passes almost unnoticed. But I have to build up a lot of courage and clarity etc before I can even try it, in some cases.
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