if you’re willing to compromise on it then is it really a value? twitter.com/_metallurgist/
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clarifying example: i am comfortable describing honesty as one of my core values - i try to be as honest as i know how, and i want the people close to me to do the same. i am not willing to “compromise” on this, and if i was... how could i still claim it as a value?
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it might be that i am using both the words “value” and “compromise” in a sort of unusual way
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Do your values sometimes clash? How do you resolve for example, wanting to be honest and wanting to be kind or useful?
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i ask people whether they want me to be honest or whether now isn't the time, or i make the judgment call that it isn't the time. i believe in tact and in holding back but i would never e.g. lie to someone to help them feel better
i think most "values clash" is an issue of not understanding, like, what the point of the value is? i view honesty as functional, it's not axiomatically good, it's good for clear comprehensible reasons one can come to systematically understand
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when people aren't honest with each other in relationships their thoughts and feelings about the relationship become increasingly misaligned with the reality of the relationship; this sucks in concrete, predictable, understandable ways