my stated goal that i am deeply committed to is ensuring that every interaction i have with another human being leaves us both feeling warm, comfortable, safe, seen and heard
this can only be accomplished through an unwavering commitment to intense radical empathy and kindness
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it is now clearer to me that this is not actually either a) a stated goal, or b) a goal with much priority for other people
i was definitely projecting in my interactions for a long time, which led to lots of self inflicted hurt and disappointment
this goal is not *owed*
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many therapy sessions went like this
“this friend hurt me bc they were unthinking”
“why did that hurt?”
“bc i am extremely considerate all the time so it feels unfair that they weren’t towards me, even tho I know the hurt caused wasn’t intentional”
i felt owed!
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