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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)
@QiaochuYuan
wow this looks really cool, and, speaking just about my own personal hangups, i would be very uncomfortable attempting to write a similar "date me" page for myself 😬 v v uncomfortable with describing myself, esp. as having positive qualities
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Chana
@ChanaMessinger
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Oh man, @uncatherio's Date Me website is so excellent. I love this genre of thing: people putting themselves out there, saying clearly and publicly that they want a partner, and knowing who they are and what they're looking for. paper.dropbox.com/doc/catherios-
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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)
@QiaochuYuan
not because i think i only have negative qualities - it's more like i don't want to make promises i can't keep eg "QC is friendly" idk most of the time, not always? is that a thing i can say and feel 100% comfortable i mean it? i certainly can't promise it
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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)
@QiaochuYuan
every positive descriptor i can think of, i can also think of plenty of times i've been the opposite, so... what does it even mean for me to describe myself as "funny" or "warm" or "curious" or "accepting" when i know i can easily be none of those things?
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Dr. Kate Storrs
@katestorrs
FWIW, I would feel more positive and trusting about one of these that contained more caveats and evaluations of the writer's baggage and bad qualities...
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Visa ✈️ SF (Aug 2-14)
@visakanv
but the challenge would be to not be needy and despondent about it, like convey a sense of fun and competence in the telling of the story OR you can go super fucked up and become a toxic musician/artist type and attract other fucked up people but I do not recommend this
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