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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)
@QiaochuYuan
wow this looks really cool, and, speaking just about my own personal hangups, i would be very uncomfortable attempting to write a similar "date me" page for myself 😬 v v uncomfortable with describing myself, esp. as having positive qualities
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Chana
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Oh man, @uncatherio's Date Me website is so excellent. I love this genre of thing: people putting themselves out there, saying clearly and publicly that they want a partner, and knowing who they are and what they're looking for. paper.dropbox.com/doc/catherios-
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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)
@QiaochuYuan
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not because i think i only have negative qualities - it's more like i don't want to make promises i can't keep eg "QC is friendly" idk most of the time, not always? is that a thing i can say and feel 100% comfortable i mean it? i certainly can't promise it
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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)
@QiaochuYuan
every positive descriptor i can think of, i can also think of plenty of times i've been the opposite, so... what does it even mean for me to describe myself as "funny" or "warm" or "curious" or "accepting" when i know i can easily be none of those things?
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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)
@QiaochuYuan
the main thing i can think of to write that would *not* feel like making a promise i can't keep is to tell stories about myself that i feel like reveal something about my character - those stories definitely happened, at least? idk
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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)
@QiaochuYuan
older and less thought out articulation of what feels gendered to me about this but maybe i am just wrong given the poll results
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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)
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been really enjoying people riffing off of this topic, here's my own riff: the internet is a feminine medium and dating apps structurally can't showcase masculine qualities on masculine terms twitter.com/QiaochuYuan/st…
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Ophelia
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Well uh, are you OK with the part of a "date me" where you describe who you're looking for and what you want out of a relationship? If yes, you could just publish that part and worry about the rest later...
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Chana
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Do you think that's part of what makes it hard to date, or orthogonal to it? Ie is this just the wrong strategy, or does that indicate something? (Super personal, feel free to ignore, I'm trying to use norms from your corner of Twitter that aren't my native ones, so may err)
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