hmm just heard from a teacher in an online course to avoid trauma processing until you have secure attachment which 🤔 big if true
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but like how do secure attachment without processing trauma I don't get it
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they do this thing called the "ideal parent figure protocol" instead which is basically where you imagine an ideal parent figure parenting you in all the good ways instead of the bad ways, and and i are checking out a course on it:
attachmentrepair.com/online-courses
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I think this is quite precisely why I became so interested in prayer after reading this book about Aquinas and the second-person perspective in joint attachment
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good meme lol there does appear to be nonzero overlap at the very very least
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like Jesus is supposed to be the model character for Christians and the main thing he does is attune to an ideal perfect father who is a source of love, kindness, moral integrity, etc
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wondering if the virgin mary has a corresponding ideal mother role for christians, there's overall sort of a lack of a powerful female presence in christianity seems to me?
yeah curious about that too, I have no real connection to Christianity so I don't know how it plays out, but e.g. the Catholic Cathechism at least states stuff like this:
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yeah that checks out, when i was trying to be a good catholic i viewed mary that way
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