i worry affirmations risk building a new structure that fights negative self-talk but not in an integrated way. the fight drains energy and the negative self-talk might come back stronger under stress. i would rather integrate the negative self-talking part
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this thread isn’t very clear or detailed but it has part of the thing:
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there can genuinely be a cost to using self-help / mind-hacking / therapeutic / transformative techniques that are okay but not that good; they can sorta help you while also causing subtle forms of damage you have to deal with using better techniques
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a friend of mine recently described “hypersensitivity to bullshit” as a trait of kids with very disorganized attachment and that resonated with me a lot. if i were to try something like affirmations i’d really have to word them carefully to not set off my own bullshit detector
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i guess this is what “you can choose what to say” in tasshin’s tweet is for 😅 sorry tasshin!
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yea the way it works for me is I must only say things that I sincerely believe are true
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yeah this sounds way better phew
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some of mine are things like
The world is bigger and more mysterious than I can know, and it will continue surprise me in unexpected ways
Change is possible
Great things can come from small beginnings
^ little riffs like these nudge me towards a way of being that I enjoy
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Speaking truths is an important part of it for me as well. You could imagine someone truly unhappy with their life standing in front of a mirror, repeating, "I am happy. I am loved."
Personally, that sounds like invalidating the truth.
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A lot of my growth came from affirming my struggles and suffering. Pretending I was doing ok was becoming an increasingly ineffective strategy.
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I notice it all the time in others, but much less so in myself. (this isn't bc i do it less. its because i dont notice it in myself)
ACTUALLY—this was something I started doing w regards to addiction and depression. At some point I started using these labels straight faced
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word same 🙏
but for myself personally... maybe it is time to affirm my victories also 🤔
aha yeah I'm right there with ya.
speaking of: I am incredibly proud of myself for producing these vocal covers. Singing was terrifying. it was an enormous W for me to put these out. When I listen to them I know I'm a dope mf and I can do anything 🤘
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I SANG AGAIN TODAY!!!!!!!! Quick cover of swing life away.
AH its really scary to post vocals without pitch correcting them or drenching them in auto tune. Its also really cool! Like hey wait Im pretty much just enjoyin the sound of my own voice.
soundcloud.com/partyhatmusic/
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hell yeah singing on twitter 💯
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