sanity check: have I been retaliating too much / too often at comments that annoy me?
- yes. chill homie pls12.5%
- nah. ur good. its fine20.6%
- u call that retaliation?!23.5%
- idk / show results43.3%
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there are a few things that really get to me: accusations of narcissism, grifting, $, sex, cults
I have witnessed/experienced firsthand how people who actually obsess about those things are destructive, and I try very very very hard to NOT be that guy
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Replying to @visakanv
to me the dude was obviously projecting and, like, criticisms from random dudes on the internet don't happen to trigger any of my particular baggage so it's easy for me to say "so just ignore it" but i'm guessing it's different for you 
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anybody who knows me in real life knows how much of an effort I make to actively steer away from those things. heck, you can see it in my tweets too. I discourage anybody who even jokes about this stuff.
can you see how, if I wanted a cult, I would encourage this instead?
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like can you see the tweets I'm NOT doing? can you imagine how much money I would make selling online courses shilling dating advice? can you imagine if I decided to get involved in commenting on American and Indian culture wars? there are so many ways I could grift *big time*
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instead I make long-ass videos & threads encouraging people to be nuanced, to be patient, to be kinder to each other. I could drop a "how to get 25,000 followers on twitter" ebook right now and make, I'd guess ~$10,000 on the sopt. and why shouldn't I, actually? but it irks me
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instead I agonize for *months* over a single book that's trying to help young people with their inner turmoil, bc I have high standards, and I wanna be very careful not to say the wrong thing... it just feels cruel that someone looks past all that and be like "u $ obsessed bro?"
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this is so interesting to me b/c i know exactly this feeling of being unable to just ignore a particular flavor of criticism, it just happens to be activated by a different thing coming from a different kind of person. hmm. hmmmm
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like from my pov
1) random dudes on the internet (the gender matters to me here) have no power and no one listens to them
2) everyone who is even slightly reasonable sees what you're really trying to do and appreciates it
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so i guess what this all has me curious about is something like... "who are you really trying to convince?" like is random internet dude a stand-in for somebody else, kinda thing
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I think at some level my worry is always that the random internet dude might be right in some way that I'm not understanding/appreciating, and/or that he might be a representative of a perspective that people have of me, so I feel obliged to relitigate the whole thing
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I should probably aim to reduce the frequency at which I do this... overdoing it would definitely be counterproductive
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