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“nothing wrong with you” and “nothing to improve” are wildly different claims. one can let go of “wrongness” as a fundamental property of the self without letting go of the desire to cultivate virtue. it sounds like reggie could’ve used some more of that himself \_(ツ)_/¯

oh, reggie ray was one of chogyam trungpa’s students. w e l p matthewremski.com/wordpress/regg

might check out this book. “attachment in cults” sounds exactly right to me, feels like it nails the mechanism really cleanly in a way i haven’t quite seen elsewhere

promising first page. “...charismatic, authoritarian leaders control their followers’ attachment relationships...” this shines a whole new light for me on the thing where cults like tell their followers who to have sex with and who to marry and stuff. messing with attachment

“But what is the meaning of ‘intentional’ when the self has been hijacked, the core of the follower’s cognitive and emotional self has been pulled into pieces that no longer form a coherent whole?” yo woooord. this is one of the things i was most confused about after my own exp

“...total or absolutist ideologies reflect the totalist and all-encompassing nature of the social structures they represent.” checks out

Mi’sen is off the grid grid grid

“The leader’s primary goal is to create a set of guaranteed attachments to others. This drive for relational control is an outcome of the leader’s own disorganized attachment.” 😩

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Mi’sen is off the grid grid grid

Yeah one of Reggie’s many fuck ups was messily smashing pop trauma-psychology and pith instructions In spite of his bullshit he did occasionally give some decent technical instruction, shame the part of him who made for a good practitioner was drowned out by his fucked-up-ness

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