spicy hot take from the attachment course: "empath" = anxious / preoccupied attacher 🤔
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Also curious!
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Ever since I realized a lot of "empath" sensibilities link to poor coping strategies and hint at underlying problems, I've been cringing whenever I see someone proudly describe themselves as one.
My empathy came from needing to work around threats. It's not great.
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I'm just gonna keep quoting gupta's first law lmao
"Every exceptional ability first arose as defenses."
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yep. one of my copes as a kid was "learn to charm people so they won't abuse and osctracize you". I am no longer living in fear of abuse, I no longer feel threatened or needy. But hey, I still have the charm skillset. and I can use it in a nourishing way to help others
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I somewhat recently went to a talk about "Highly Sensitive People" and thought that may be related to trauma or similar experiences. Interesting to look at this now from the perspective of attachment theory.
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Funny...I’ve actually always thought of “empath” as code for “I get myself all wrapped up in others people’s shit so that I don’t have to deal with my own.” This isn’t far off from that.
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