extremely context-dependent for me, depends a lot on what “reward” means and what my relationship is to the person. i think “don’t feed the trolls” is unobjectionable vs. “shower my partner with affection when she does things i like and ignore her otherwise” is emotional abuse
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There is something wrong with this
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i think it should be "shower partner with affection when they do things you like" and "ignore when they do bad things" but not even like "cold shoulder," more like "they said rude thing, dont respond in the moment"
which may still be objectionable
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there's additional nuances here around what you mean by "ignore." big difference between like "don't take her bait" vs. "completely stonewall her emotionally"
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yeah, i think the key in animal training is immediacy, stonewalling seems like a longer-term and therefore less effective method
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it's also uh cruel and imo people just shouldn't do it if they can avoid it :S like you could gloss it as neutral but in the context of an intimate relationship it can be a form of punishment if being used deliberately
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using conditioning as a conceptual basis for relating to people you're close to gets real squicky real fast imo. think there are better options :S
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i assume this is true, i just really like the idea of training humans 😭
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gob no pls D:
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only consensually 😭 although that time sheldon did it in big bang theory it was gr8
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okay maybe if it's really funny to both of you