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is rewarding good behavior and ignoring bad behavior in humans...

normal boundary-setting
64.6%
manipulation
10.4%
other (explain)
12.5%
results
12.5%

192 votesFinal results

goblin à la mode

@goblinodds

is rewarding good behavior and ignoring bad behavior in humans...

pavlovian training (good)
64.4%
pavlovian training (bad)
2%
something else (explain)
16.8%
am coward
16.8%

101 votesFinal results

extremely context-dependent for me, depends a lot on what “reward” means and what my relationship is to the person. i think “don’t feed the trolls” is unobjectionable vs. “shower my partner with affection when she does things i like and ignore her otherwise” is emotional abuse

There is something wrong with this

can you clarify / elaborate?

Just in an interpersonal way. It feels like assigning scores to people and personalities in your brain.

what do you mean by "it" here?

Context dependent valuation of friends

This was not intended as some sort of dunk

8:01 AM · Mar 1, 2021Twitter Web App

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sorry, i'm still not sure i understand what you mean. i'm talking about context-dependent valuation of *behaviors* here (at least i think i am)

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I think that translates into judgment of friends and then things get weird. I don’t think you can say behaviors and then say you’re not judging the people around you. AKA your friends.