It really peeves me when a doctor, PT, or teacher of some kind is like "I'm not a [doctor/PT/teacher of X]."
E.g. guitar teacher says "I'm not a doctor" when I talk about pain/discomfort. What the fuck, dude? You think a doctor knows enough about guitar to help with this?
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this is mostly a legal liability dodge afaict. heâs not making any object-level claims about his abilities, he just doesnât want to get sued
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It's still frustrating and obnoxious for me. I think the WAY it's said matters too
One thing to be like "Of course I'm not a doctor [knowing look], but I think XYZ." Another to sort of squirm away from the whole issue
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The thing is part of what I'm looking for in a teacher is to FEEL supported in the project. This shit undermines that, a lot.
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what feels undermining about it?
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I hear it as "When it comes this, you're on your own."
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"Don't talk to me about this."
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ah gotcha so itâs the part where they subsequently donât even comment. can you try being like âitâs fine i donât need an authoritative opinion here just gimme your best guess, i wonât hold you to itâ?
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That's a good idea. Might try it next time
It doesn't feel like it'll cut to the heart of the matter. I may also want a thing that almost doesn't exist or that's just very hard to find, which is highly competent teaching that's also hmmm nurturing (??). So compromise, maybe
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I think a lot of people in my life (almost everyone) has been dismissive of my subtle nebulous hard-to-pin-down discomforts and hesitations and questions.
This is an instance of that it seems like
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