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mauve_sky
@mauve_sky
ive had several instances of this and it’s incredibly upsetting. i wish i knew what i had done wrong or what made me an unsafe person to discuss a concern with? or that i mattered enough to not be abandoned by said friend
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yamini
@showmetheyamz
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one of my best friends ghosted me out of the blue a few years ago and to this day every time i see his name it makes me cry. i have dreams about him still, frequently. that shit hurts so much more than a breakup
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mauve_sky
@mauve_sky
Or even a warning or a discussion of issues. just nothing. makes me wonder how much disgust, hurt, and resentment they were harboring?
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QC (in Berlin 7/29-??? w/ COVID 😷)
@QiaochuYuan
fwiw i basically did this to a friend when i was like 19 and i just did not even slightly have the language for talking about what was going on. all i could've said at the time was "i don't get anything out of talking to you anymore"
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QC (in Berlin 7/29-??? w/ COVID 😷)
@QiaochuYuan
a longer and more accurate description would've been "when we became friends i really wanted you to like me a lot so i ignored all of my wants and needs and focused completely on yours when we talked and that calcified into the pattern of our friendship and now i don't want that"
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mauve_sky
@mauve_sky
the situations im referencing are not 19 year olds, its like 8-15 years older.... :/ i get that people don’t know how to articulate things but it’s been deeply painful.
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