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ive had several instances of this and it’s incredibly upsetting. i wish i knew what i had done wrong or what made me an unsafe person to discuss a concern with? or that i mattered enough to not be abandoned by said friend

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yamini

@showmetheyamz

· Feb 26, 2021

one of my best friends ghosted me out of the blue a few years ago and to this day every time i see his name it makes me cry. i have dreams about him still, frequently. that shit hurts so much more than a breakup

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mauve_sky

@mauve_sky

Feb 27, 2021

Or even a warning or a discussion of issues. just nothing. makes me wonder how much disgust, hurt, and resentment they were harboring?

QC (in Berlin 7/29-??? w/ COVID

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@QiaochuYuan

Feb 27, 2021

fwiw i basically did this to a friend when i was like 19 and i just did not even slightly have the language for talking about what was going on. all i could've said at the time was "i don't get anything out of talking to you anymore"

QC (in Berlin 7/29-??? w/ COVID

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a longer and more accurate description would've been "when we became friends i really wanted you to like me a lot so i ignored all of my wants and needs and focused completely on yours when we talked and that calcified into the pattern of our friendship and now i don't want that"

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QC (in Berlin 7/29-??? w/ COVID

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"also i kinda feel like you haven't really grown as a person since we became friends and idk maybe that is even in some sense partially my fault but in any case i don't know how to turn this friendship into something rewarding for me so i'm giving up instead, i am so sorry"

QC (in Berlin 7/29-??? w/ COVID

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@QiaochuYuan

Feb 27, 2021

i had like no cultural scripts to operate off of and without that i was totally lost. just had no model whatsoever about how to end a friendship. not my proudest moment but i don't know what else i could've done with the resources and knowledge i had 😬

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