i immediately distrust anyone who's like "let me tell you about all the terrible things that've happened to me"
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i guess i kinda went through a phase like this and i have a lot of sympathy for it - they’re not done dealing with it and they want validation and support, and maybe also filtering out people who can’t handle it idk. people really do be out there in a lot of pain
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of course there is like a calibration component of like, is this the appropriate time, are we close enough yet that this makes sense, what am i really trying to accomplish by saying this, etc etc etc
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i feel like i phrased the original tweet badly or wasnt clear that something close that specific wording (vs the spirit of it) is what sets off alarms for me
traumaposting imo is good, but there's a *format* that makes me suspicious that any harm actually happened
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probably i shouldve screencapped the instance that provoked the original tweet but that feels ~gauche~ and it's not like i *know* that person is suffering from their own delusions or narcissism rather than at the hands of other people
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oh yeah there is like a histrionic manipulative version - like “these people hurt me terribly and they’re bad and you should feel bad for me and hate them or else you’re bad”
that version is less good 😬 although ultimately still a person just trying to get their needs met 😬
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yeah definitely haha
took me an embarrassingly long time to realize even superficially that those people still need empathy (just uh maybe not for what they think they do)
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