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Sei
@SeishinWrites
This is so pervasive in my life. Even about mundane things "stomach hurts. I'm an idiot for not knowing how to care for my body better" It's not quite a fully-fleshed thought like that, but a general feeling of "this is my fault & i am bad" Probably hundreds of times a day :/
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Nick
@nickcammarata
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When was your last self-attacking thought? example of non-attack: aww you didn’t sleep well, bummer! Hopefully you feel good today anyway attack: you didn’t sleep well because you were stupid and had caffeine late when you *know* that’s bad
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Sei
@SeishinWrites
My partner has sometimes flinched when I've shared some of my self-attacking thoughts :/ It's just so normal to me that I forget it doesn't have to be that way.
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Sei
@SeishinWrites
Constant positive self-talk does wonders for this (I've spent entire days on retreats just saying nice things to myself) but it's a sticky pattern and so far has always come back for me. Pretty sure breaking this will be hugely transformative for me.
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QC (in Berlin 7/29-??? w/ COVID 😷)
@QiaochuYuan
not that i think i'm telling you anything you don't already know, but i wouldn't expect positive self-talk to do much b/c it doesn't address the concerns of the critic part that feels a need to criticize you
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QC (in Berlin 7/29-??? w/ COVID 😷)
@QiaochuYuan
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what kind of damage can you do to yourself the counteractive / layering way? let’s say you also have a strong inner critic, for example. when you notice yourself failing to properly counteract your anger, that can become another thing for your inner critic to latch onto
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Sei
@SeishinWrites
Yea, so far it's largely been helpful as a frame-breaking thing, like "oh shit it's possible for me to not always be an asshole to myself, wow okay" (lol i'm even being self-attacking in that sentence) so that on some level it stops just being like... the water I'm swimming in
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