I wonder if this is inherent (women might be naturally more selective) or if there is something that could be done about the structure of dating apps that could get men's sex appeal across a lot better
dating apps are too text-based! v insubstantial and unphysical. you'd get a much better sense of men (well, everyone) by watching short video clips of them speaking and moving. not that i think this would help most men's dating success π¬
i'm inclined to believe that the real problem is that society no longer has any mechanisms operating at scale for producing genuinely attractive men, and instead mostly has mechanisms that crush men into tiny little bits
literally i kept reading each new paragraph last night and was like "motherfucker i poured a lot of blood sweat and tears into having this insight and you just... tweeted it out"
into a book but still
bruh I HIGHLY recommend, if youβre digging this (π) also checking out I Donβt Want To Talk About It, the quoted book.
best account Iβve read so far of how generational trauma is passed around, & sux for men
I read it cuz I was like βI know men, I wanna understand themβ and then was also like... oh... it also me
knowing your tweets, a lot of it will be familiar, but itβs cool to sync up w someone whoβs studied this for decades