another thing to add to the list of things that confuse me on a gut level: when people describe talking to their parents on a regular basis, or uh pretty much ever actually
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you're telling me you guys didn't get punished for telling your parents things that fell slightly out of line with their expectations so quickly learned to not tell your parents anything ever? 🤔🤔🤔
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and they wonder why i take so long to reply to their messages now 🙄
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one of the fucked up things about this is it didn't occur to me that anything was "wrong" for a long time b/c all the teenagers i saw in TV, movies, etc. growing up also hated their parents, and also so did nearly all my friends, so it all just seemed normal to me
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do any of you feel like you had good relationships with your parents? what was that like? what did they do if you came to them with problems? did you feel comfortable opening up to them about uhhh anything? what did they do if you fucked something up?
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Yes. Dad was fun, cool, free, the friendliest person I've ever met. He made us laugh a lot. Mom was grumpy, demanding, fierce, would be at someone's throat in a second for us. When we were kids, she valued our freedom, had our back, celebrated our wins
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I could go on and on. A whole chapter just about how she supported me in adulthood - I left home at 23, brought them both near me by 27. Now they live literally next door, and she's still my most important support pillar❤️
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May sound idyllic but it was incredibly hard: financially, logistically, culturally...Both me and mom were very sick at different moments in the past 10 years...almost died. We had each other, that may have saved our lives, quite literally
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I think a lot about motherhood across generations, how it's inherited (?) My maternal grandma was, from what I hear from older sister and mom, the wisest and coolest. I have a sentiment of generational wealth in that respect. Already feel like I have so much to give to daughters
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dang. where's that side of your family from? (i get real curious about what happened to people's families during WWII or just any other big historical events that affected the family)
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Transylvanian mountains. Grandma told the story of hiding being pregnant w her 5th (mom) staying home pretending to be sick when everybody left for harvest, to then give birth alone and just being in awe at "how beautiful u were baby girl" convinced everyone will think the same❤️
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Mom was a surprise child, when grandpa came from war (her oldest sister 18 years older).
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