(Again to play devil's advocate, I am not exactly that helpful beyond what imo is a basic level of help for most people. Not really giving them that much incentive to connect with me either
Maybe this transactional view of things is a part of the problem)
Conversation
So, this leads to the other part of the problem
There are a few incredibly rare cases where I meet someone irl who I genuinely want to connect with. People who are talking about things I consider important
Whenever I do see such people, I don't know how to connect with them
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(For context. This is in public places / meet ups)
Like wtf am I supposed to do. Just walk up and say "Hey I loved your ideas" sure thats a good start but then what?
I don't know how I could invite them into my world, nor how I could enter theirs
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Like why would they want to enter my world / life. Sure I like it and it keeps me entertained, but I don't know how other people would fit into it
Hmm.. what if I compare it to twitter?
I do just DM people to say that I love their tweets...
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and we usually do connect through the TL over time. After that we DM more and do private group chats
I don't feel like I have an equal IRL "watering hole" to form bonds over...
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And in most cases people are either way too shy about starting what I consider interesting conversations, or they are just plain bores who don't even want to have an interesting discussion
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(I want to be polite and say that people should enjoy whatever they do enjoy, but I am quite a bit bitter. Is this everything you want? Is this all you are capable of even thinking of? Is that it?!)
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so brief recap / tldr
1. I cant connect with most people due to religious differences, nor am i intersted in that
2. The people I am interested in, I don't know how to connect to as I feel like I'm being needy and a burden with nothing to offer
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1. maybe move to a different country?
2. this one is if anything even tougher 😅 ime this is an attachment issue even though it doesn't look romantic. goes real deep. other people telling you you're good mostly doesn't help
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1. Moving to another country is hard af 😂💔
2. You are right with the attatchement issues. Got any advice on how to deal with it? Been on my list for a long ass time
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2. i am trying out this online course, you can join late and catch up on the videos, seems promising:
attachmentrepair.com/online-courses