what is hatefucking 🤔 anyone wanna explain hatefucking to me?
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this makes the most sense to me so far
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it's freedom from guilt or caring, its abandoning the anxieties of trying to make your partner have a good time, or trying to convince them you're having a good time because o no what about hurt feelings, its totally selfish
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tentative conclusion from this thread is that i really need to finish reading Aroused
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“Sexual excitement also requires that we momentarily become selfish and turn away from concerns about the other’s pleasure in order to surrender to our own, that we momentarily stop worrying about hurting or rejecting the other person.”
sounds impossible but ok 
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oh man, yes. big recommend. I didn't read it but the Arousal's contents were a big part of the material for an 8-week sexuality workshop I did, and all of it was just super useful in helping me understand my own sexuality much better than I ever had before
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and like I'm a dude who's been actively thinking about his own sexuality for years, this was some good shit
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get yourself a partner who enjoys the things you would do selfishly with them and vice versa
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This is probably the best descriptor, and to be clear this can take place in a consensual loving relationship context. It’s a way for one or both partners to basically stop thinking and let loose in a very cathartic way. Obviously consent and communication are key.