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poll: what's your ~gender | have you dumped people more often or been dumped more often? (pls don't answer if you haven't been in a relationship sorry)

~m | i'm dumper
41.5%
~m | i'm dumpee
41.6%
~f | i'm dumper
12.2%
~f | i'm dumpee
4.7%

1,159 votesFinal results

8:36 PM · Feb 6, 2021Twitter Web App

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@QiaochuYuan

I don't think I even reached the "bf & gf" stage of dating, I was put down 3 times when I presented as a man then I transitioned and my first relationship was with a long time friend that became my husband

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~gender while in the relationships or ~gender now?

QC (in Berlin 7/29-??? w/ COVID

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@QiaochuYuan

Feb 6, 2021

oh hmm while in the relationships

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What if you're in exactly one lasting relationship? 0/0

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I can’t imagine dumping a girl. To leave her feeling like she isn’t wanted or worthy of love is too much for someone I care about. If it isn’t working, I’ll act out and she can dump me.

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Dump the world.

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this is some Simpson’s paradox bullshit

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and

I just noticed I have a (mostly unendorsed) intuitive suspicion of guys who are the dumper. Maybe because I assume they're either rationalizing (and were actually the dumpee), or because I assume any man who has the confidence that he could do better must be sort of egotistical.