there are four genders and they are secure attachment, anxious / preoccupied attachment, dismissive / avoidant attachment, and disorganized / fearful attachment
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I used to think I was anxiously-attached, then I thought I was disorganized, now... I just don't like this framework.
Maybe I am disorganized in some ways, but I think I'm secure in others and anxious in others. A lot of it seems contextual, wonder how common that is
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Also IME attachment stuff is thoroughly entangled with the seeming of the world and cosmology and stuff
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yeah agreed it’s a whole intertwingled mess in there it seems
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One of the things that happened from tons of circling and meditation is I lost my sense of clarity as to what "healthy" even means in relationships
Like, do I know *any* securely attached people?
Mu.
People seem to have different relationships, with mixes of good and bad stuff
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Being a little extra polemical for fun. I'm actually not sure what's up with all this
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