open-ended question: how do y'all feel generally about
1) paying your friends to do stuff
2) being paid by your friends to do stuff?
comfortable? awkward? feels like it makes the friendship messier? feels like it enriches the friendship? never tried it? something else?
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feels like most of the people I know, we have a comfortable give and take about it. No one's necessarily expected to offer to pay, no one's expected to do it for free either.
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The conversation might begin with an offer of payment (or a free meal), which the other accepts, or denies ("You don't need to do that"), or, in rare cases, says they'd need something more (but that's usually about something bigger, in which case the person requesting the help
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has already usually asked what kind of payment the other person would require).
Usually, if they say "You don't need to do that," the other person takes them out to lunch anyways or tries to force some money on them later.
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It all feels pretty relaxed, like everyone knows the back and forth is designed to make things fair and give everyone a chance to ask for what they need.
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tangentially related: "We'll all help you move out of your apartment and then go out to eat together afterwards" happens a lot -- it's not "payment" in a strict sense because everyone's paying for their own food,
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but it's the reward for gritting your teeth and bearing it all the same.
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Similarly, a lot of my relatives who own land will have a big "work day" around the same time every year, which is also a big party and pumpkin carving competition (or whatever, depending on the time of year). So you burn brush, eat some food, chop down trees, have some fun.
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Everyone jokes that we're being taken advantage of but it's a lot of fun and we keep going back year after year.
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aww work day sounds amazing tbh i would pay to participate in something like that (well, maybe not literally bc that would be weird)