open-ended question: how do y'all feel generally about
1) paying your friends to do stuff
2) being paid by your friends to do stuff?
comfortable? awkward? feels like it makes the friendship messier? feels like it enriches the friendship? never tried it? something else?
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really appreciating everyone’s replies, thank you
realizing the original question was super open-ended - based on replies it seems to matter whether it’s short-term vs. long-term, something they / you already do professionally vs. not, “normal friend stuff” (e.g. moving) vs. not
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there’s an interesting undercurrent in some replies that bringing money into a friendship makes it “transactional” or otherwise dirties it somehow. lotta interesting stuff going on there i think. gets at fundamental beliefs about what money is and how good vs. evil it is
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the workplace and the boss-employee relationship is imo a locus of immense suffering, much of it unacknowledged, so not surprising that a lot of the bad vibes of that can carry over into any situation where money changes hands. my guess at one contributing factor