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The Unreasonable Effectiveness of Hugging your Children My most effective parenting technique, and I was not a hugger before being a mom. In one of my children I can literally feel negative emotion leave her body when I hold her, no talking. Ever since she was a toddler (13 now)

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@QiaochuYuan

Feb 4, 2021

you might be interested in reading this "In the isolated hamlets in the southern forests, infants were kept in continuous bodily contact with mothers or the mothers' friends" ranprieur.com/readings/preco

jonathan d.

@jonathandubin

Feb 4, 2021

this is one of my fave passages from that piece

QC (in Berlin 7/29-??? w/ COVID

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dubin this might be in some objective sense the most heartbreaking page on the entire internet (possibly of interest to

@nickcammarata

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6:21 AM · Feb 4, 2021Twitter Web App

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the book I originally saw it collected in, has a pretty baller name, too

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Tribal Epistemologies: Essays in the Philosophy of Anthropology (Routledge Revivals)

QC (in Berlin 7/29-??? w/ COVID

oh sick title

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I remember Jordan Greenhall talking about being amazed by his daughter and her friends exhibiting a vaguely similar kind of coordination while playing Minecraft. You can choose to be elated or depressed by this. Life finds a way... with the resources available to it

jonathan d.

@jonathandubin

Feb 4, 2021

haha. i find it enheartening. since i read this piece originally, i've found that this ability to kind of empathically coordinate, is something i can lean into when i'm around others.

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No kidding. God damn. Like we were fully meant for entirely different lives than the ones we got, like some great misunderstanding.

jonathan d.

@jonathandubin

Feb 5, 2021

i'm optimistic, though! there's hope! we haven't lost all the pieces

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