poll: can you make yourself feel better by imagining / fantasizing about nice things happening to you
- yes25.3%
- kinda?43.5%
- no26.2%
- results4.9%
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i am currently at a "no" personally, something feels vaguely embarrassing about imagining nice things happening to me and either it feels like nothing or it feels vaguely heartbreaking or it feels intensely heartbreaking
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thinking abt everyone I've ever loved in my life and gradually imagining them in the room is pretty much guaranteed to cheer me up and yet I don't often do it when upset
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depends on what exactly I'm fantasizing about
relaxing in a bathtub or reclining chair outside smoking? a good hug? sure! a stable childhood home or ideal parent? I don't know what that is so no
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Not feeling bad sounds a lot like feeling better
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I can make myself feel better by imagining nice things, but usually not really "happening to me"?
e.g. imagining good music (not really imagining "me listening to music")
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If those nice things involve feeling safe and loved, then yes? Maybe gives a kickstart to the bit of me that should be responsible for that
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I feel better imagining pleasant memories or thinking about plans for the future.
If I think about things I want that can't happen, it's just sad.
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